There’s a reason why you can’t stop eating.
A reason nobody dares tell you.
And that reason is:
Somehow, you want this to go on….
Finally Revealed: the secret reason why you can’t stop eating too much. + What you must absolutely know if you want to find peace with food forever. (Click here to grab your mind map + watch my explainer video.)
Yep! No matter how much you say, you want to stop overeating.
You also want food to serve you the way it has.
It seems reliable
It will always be there to serve you
It will not judge you or make you feel bad
It will fill you up
It will make you feel numb or better
It will ease the overwhelming frustration of constant dieting, restricting or self-neglect
This is by no means an exhaustive list
When I work with clients, I find many reasons why they can’t stop eating compulsively: the desire to punish, to feel safe, loved or in control, the need for reassurance or approval, or just to calm down….
Now, you may be thinking.
“How can she say I want to overeat?”
“How dare she say that?”
“I’ve been struggling so hard.”
And, I get it.
I know you have been struggling hard.
I know you’re trying your best
I know you’re in pain
I know you worry about your health and your future
I know how much binge eating can isolate you…
I know how bad you want this to end
My point is if you keep doing the same thing over and over,
Maybe, it’s because you get something out of it…
I know that once my clients make the choice to face that “something” with honesty and curiosity and reconsider it…. cravings fade away naturally without a fight.
I had to come to terms with my own “something.”
For example, I used to procrastinate and hate myself for it.
And I fought against myself relentlessly.
I told myself
And I resisted doing this and doing that and trying harder…
And you know how draining this becomes.
So here is a second tip for you…
You are not fighting food. You are fighting your overeating drives. Click To Tweet
And these drives are not created by food but by yourself.
They are like small programs that run in the back of your mind. They make you obsess on food, hear it calling your name, crave it, and make you go to the kitchen when they get triggered.
And as long they are in place and control you, they will make you reach out for food.
You can try winning the battle over food without reprogramming your overeating drives.
But if you’ve tried that, you know it’s extremely hard because…
They make food call you louder and louder until you can’t take it anymore.
They can hijack your logical mind with rationalization, justification and other manipulative tools.
They make it impossible to think about anything else than food.
They can activate at random even after long periods of stasis.
In other words, they make your chances of permanent success unpromising.
And if you have a long history of dieting and feeling very attached to maintaining a certain weight or eating a certain way….
You also need to discover your core dieting drives because compulsive dieting and binge eating go hand in hand. You have to take care of both at the same time.
Now imagine if you didn’t have these dieting and binge eating, emotional eating and mindless eating drives.
How would your life be?
How would this impact your relationship with food?
Here it is for you:
Food would no longer be on your mind.
You wouldn’t bother binging because it would make no sense to you at all.
Without these drives, you don’t want to binge, you don’t want to diet.
Because you don’t have a reason to…
You may still have “too much cake” and a big meal from time to time. But that would be no match to what you’ve experienced with food so far, and it would be without stress, guilt, or fear… and everything you probably feel after eating too much or the “wrong food.”
You would eat like my French ancestors used to. You would eat food that you enjoy and never think twice about it.
Now you may fear that without trying to control yourself all the time, you would become a bottomless food pit.
But why would you eat so much if you don’t desire it?
Now imagine if you replaced those old self-destructive drives with more supportive ones?
Now, that’s exciting….
And I’ll tell you more about it soon
But first things, first!
Now, I want you to remember this.
- The reason why you haven’t been able to stop eating is your unique overeating drives.
- They control your eating behavior in the back of your mind.
- You’re not wrestling with food. Your wrestling your binge and emotional eating drives
In conclusion:Controlling and struggling is not the way out of binge eating or emotional eating.Click To Tweet
You overcome binge and emotional eating by releasing and reprogramming your unconscious mind until peace with food becomes your new norm. (more about this soon)
What you want is to uncover what drives your relationship with food and change it.
Of course, you can resist food cravings. You can distract yourself… until you get in this mood:
“What the heck.” “I won’t be bothered”… “Just go get it. Let’s get this over with. I just want to end this food chatter in my head”.
Then what do you do?
Without a clear plan, your chances of success are close to nil.
That’s why I want to invite you to do two things:
1/ Get my FREE Behind-the-Scenes, Binge, and Emotional Eating Drive Cheat Sheet + Explainer Video. This is the exact system I use to figure out why someone binge eats or eating emotionally in minutes and how I’m going to help them find peace with food. Yesterday I received this in my e-mail box.
“Hi Laura! This is just a quick note to let you know I had a great day. I ate what I think was a Normal amount of food and didn’t have amy usual urges to binge…”
This is from someone who tried six therapists with no progress before working with me. What I’m about to share with you is so unheard of in the Eating Disorder coaching world, I’m a bit worried to release it out there so get it before I change my mind.
2/ Become a VIP of my upcoming Food Peace Roadmap Case-Study Coaching Program. VIPs get notified before everyone else and get a chance to get in the program first. I’m limiting seats to this first launch because I’m going to give it a very affordable price to create new case-studies so get on the list if you think you are interested.