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Step 1: Mind Your Focus
Binge eaters often report having obsessive thoughts about foods before a binge. Sometimes, it can occur days prior to a compulsive eating spree. The fact is, they just keep focusing on the food and the desire to eat.
In my article about emotional eating, I explain that listening to your emotions is the key to returning to normal eating. I will explain more about why in this article.
First let me introduce you to the concept of The Law of Attraction. It has nothing to do with strategies of seduction. It’s the principle that explains why we experience the lives we have. Buddha explained it this way: “We are what we think. All that we are arises with our thoughts. With our thoughts, we make the world.” Tweet this In other words, you are what you think about the most. Other authors writing about the law of attraction explain that if you sustain one thought for about a minute, then that thought will attract similar ones and grow in power.
What does this mean for you and your binge eating disorder? Once you start focusing on the next binge, you will attract similar thoughts that will grow in intensity until you just can’t resist eating. You will also keep reinforcing a core belief or thought that you are a binge eater and that foods can solve all your emotional issues. This belief will attract more thoughts about foods and compulsive eating.
From a practical standpoint, it means that you must learn to abort binge-eating thought cycles as early as possible. The first binge-eating thought is very easy to distract. Two minutes later it becomes much harder to resist, and it continues to become more and more magnetic until it is all you can think about.
So the first step is to learn how to practice mindfulness. You have to be willing to look within yourself, feel what’s happening, and hear your thoughts. In other words, you have to slow down your thinking and feeling process to witness it. It may be difficult at first. You may only notice your compulsion. But that is still progress. Soon, you’ll be able to pinpoint the first thought. It doesn’t matter if it takes weeks. This is a skill that will serve you for the rest of your life. It’s easy, fun, and doesn’t take much time just some attention.
At this point, just welcome the compulsive thought and let it be; just observe it with curiosity as if it were not your own. If it’s too hard, try to imagine that you are your best friend or that you are the person who loves you the most on this planet. Imagine you are this caring person observing you with eagerness and love. This usually works really well. What matters is that you start stepping out of yourself and look at yourself with a pair of fresh eyes. If you’re serious about learning how to stop compulsive eating, then do this diligently.
You will soon uncover why you believe you must have this food that you obsess over regularly. When you’re observing yourself obsessing over food, you create a separation that will allow you to choose new thoughts. This leads to the second step.
Step 2: Exercise Your Power of Choice to End Compulsive Eating
Once you have fully observed your thoughts, now is the time to question those thoughts. Ask yourself: “Is this really what I want?” “Which part of me needs nurturing?” This will take your mind away from the food and toward what is really happening.
This strategy works really well once you have made the strong commitment to eat normally. First, you must make a firm decision and then reinforce your commitment daily. Then you constantly choose not to let any binge-eating thought get out of your control. Your decision and commitment become the foundation of your transformation. It’s very powerful. I will show you exactly how to do this in my program.
You can start by asking yourself each time you have that first thought, “Is this what I want to choose?” Whether you acknowledge it or not, you are faced with a choice with each craving. You either go back to your old compulsive-eating strategy or you choose a new one. Practicing EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique), for example, is a very positive alternative. Do it for several days and you’ll be amazed at how easy it has become to shift your thinking and stop you food cravings in seconds.
All you have to remember for now is to turn the focus away from foods and toward yourself and your emotions as early as possible. Once you have done this, you must learn to question the thought that triggered the emotion. These types of thoughts are things like: “They’ll see I’m not good enough.” “I’m such a bad person.” “Nobody likes me.” “I must be the best or else.” And so on until you are able to make a new choice.
Step 3: Switch Coping Strategies
Next, you must replace your old strategy (binging) with a new strategy (practicing self-love) and reach for more positive thoughts. It may take some time to learn this, but once you have you will be able to stop your compulsive eating disorder for life. Actually, this is one of the many ways you can deconstruct any belief. It works wonders and is very gentle.
If you use the law of attraction FOR yourself instead of AGAINST yourself, you will be amazed at the changes that can occur in just thirty short days.
First, you must start with a decision, a commitment, and a burning desire. I can help you transform yourself in just a few weeks with those three elements, but I can’t decide for you. You don’t even have to really believe you can do it. I can help you with that, but the initial decision is entirely up to you.
I hope this article has inspired you to really do your best to turn your focus away from foods and the pleasure you think they provide. I have barely brushed the surface of the subject here, but I think it is enough to give you a sense of how your thinking is important and the impact it has on your life. To me it’s the best compulsive eating treatment you can find.
Have you decided yet?
It just takes a different way of reacting to your thoughts to enjoy eating normally.
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Thanks very much! I try and try to stop the desire, but inside feels the need to have the comfort of food. Before I didn't know how to get rid of that feeling, but now I wI'll try to step aside and watch it. No matter how long it takes to observe
Yeah! I’m super happy that you have made this decision Megan! I have taught this to my clients, my Facebook group members and it works like magic. It takes a little practice. It’s not always easy but it’s transformational and liberating. Go for it!
PS: I don’t give my Facebook group address publicly because I like to keep it private, positive and gather only brave people who are open to my ideas instead of just anyone. If you want us to help you stick to that decision, contact me or subscribe to my updates and you’re in. I’d love to have you there.
I’m so messed up when it comes to food and eating I don’t even know what normal is any more. Your site is a light at the end of the tunnel for me. Thank you.
You’re welcome, Jennifer. Your comment warms my heart. I’m delighted to read that my site is helping you. If you want more help, make sure to join my newsletter, too. I’m coming up with really good stuff, and it’s kind of hard to keep it to myself. Xxx
Thank you so much. I feel so lost, but your advice makes so much sense.
Thank you Kathy. I’m glad you have found it interesting.