I Can’t Control What I Eat. I’ve Failed Each Time I Tried.
Does this sound like you? Do you sometimes feel that you’ll never get rid of your compulsive eating disorder or food addiction? One of the main reasons overeaters fail to change is that they simply believe they can’t stop eating so much. It’s that simple. If you want to eat normally, you have to build the belief that you can. If you fail to do so, the belief that you can’t change will control you, and you’ll keep on eating too much forever. I know it’s probably the first time you are hearing this. Everybody else seems to be talking about eating mindfully or intuitively. This can help, but if you have a “limiting” belief like “I can’t change” blocking your way, these techniques will be hard to apply consistently. Remove this block and everything becomes easy. In this article I will show you exactly how to shift your belief from “I can’t control what I eat” to “I eat only what I want to eat” without the help of a professional like myself. Here are the steps:
- Start believing that people can stop overeating.
- Question the thought that you can’t.
- Start building the belief that you can.
1. Believe That It Is Possible To End Compulsive Eating Permanently
If you have a long history of going back and forth from dieting to binge eating back to dieting and so forth, you have probably reached the conclusion that no matter what you do, you just can’t change. You’re still trying, but deep inside you just don’t believe you can. Maybe you still have hope but not enough to really change. Maybe you believe you can’t because something bad will happen. This is more like fear of change, and I’ve covered that in my article conquer your fear and stop eating so much food in four easy steps . This current article is more about the belief that in your unconscious you don’t believe you can change your eating habits. An incredible amount of evidence has piled up throughout your life that you can’t change, and the more you eat compulsively, the more you add to that pile. In that light, the possibility of making a permanent change in your eating habits may seem even more unlikely. However, the truth of the past doesn’t matter. You always have the capacity for change within you (Tweet this). In other words, what is happening is that your ego believes your present is determined by your past. Fortunately, that is far from the truth.
2. Challenge the Thought That You Can’t Stop Eating So Much
Now that you have some proof that other human beings just like you have been able to let go of their addictions and live peaceful, fulfilling lives, you’ll want to transfer that belief to yourself. To do that, start questioning your thoughts. When you hear yourself think “I’ll never make it. I’ll never change,” start asking questions: Is that true? How did I learn this? Are all these people I read about better than me? Who says so (my mother, my father, my four-year-old self…)? Then ask yourself, “Could I (they) be wrong?” and patiently take note of your thoughts.
3. Build the Belief That You Can Eat Normally
Now that you have created a strong belief that people can recover from any form of addiction and you have challenged the thought that this didn’t apply to you, you should reinforce your faith in your ability to eat normally. I cannot cover all the ways you can do that here, but one way is to acknowledge your progress. It is so easy to forget how far you have traveled and only focus on the long road that lies ahead.