Did you know that your mindset can make or break your chances to overcome binge eating? And if you’ve been struggling with food for several years, only to grow more worried and desperate, there’s a 90% chance that you need a mindset makeover. If you just can’t wait to discover how to change your mindset so that you never have to worry about food for the rest of your life, click here now to get a free cheat sheet and explanatory video on how to do that.
Here’s a common scenario: You binge and shortly after that you make promises that you’ll start over next week and resolve your eating problem then. Except that it’s the 200th time you’ve told yourself that, and then the next week nothing changes. Or maybe there are moments when you start feeling that you’ve got this under control. But one single bite snowballs into a series of binges and you’re not always sure what started it. Each binge leaves you feeling more powerless and doubtful of you chances to recover.
The most extreme case is when binge eating becomes the norm because you feel it would be too painful to let go of food.
So how do you overcome binge eating permanently, even if you have been addicted to food for decades?
What Sir Richard Branson Can Teach You About Binge Eating Recovery:
Whenever you are trying to learn a new a skill or build a million dollar business or change a habit, the way you react to setbacks is going to determine your success.
And Richard Branson, the one who created all the Virgin companies (Virgin Airlines, Virgin radio, Virgin Cola, and Virgin mobile) has a lot to teach us in that field.
Here’s a quote on his philosophy about failure:
At Virgin, we don't spend much time regretting the past, and we don't let mistakes or failures get to us, and we certainly don't fear failure. We picked ourselves up and tried again
And failed, he did. Virgin Colas, Virgin Vie, Virgin Brides, Virgin Vodkas, and Virgin Clothings are now all history.
So Lesson Number 1 is: Don’t Fear Failure
Lesson Number 2: Don’t Regret Your Past Failures
Here’s something else he shared in an interview for the Star
Everybody, and especially every entrepreneur, should embrace failure with open arms. It is only through failure that we learn.
So Lesson Number 3 is:
Now that’s exciting! But you may be wondering: “what does this have to do with binge eating?” And I’ll tell you in a sec.
But first I want to move on to Lesson Number 4:
Here’s another quote from Sir Branson:
“Every entrepreneur’s success story is a tale of constant adaptation, revision and change….When you come across a situation that’s unpleasant, difficult or challenging, you can decide to give up, re-adjust, or turn it to your advantage.”
Now that’s a beauty!
So Lesson Number 4 is: Use Challenges to Adapt, Revise, and Re-Adjust Your Approach
In the interview, Richard Branson explained that he failed at school because of his late-diagnosed dyslexia. He could have decided then that it meant that he was dumb and feel like a loser for the rest of his life. But instead, it taught him “to approach problems creatively in all areas of life."
So, what Sir Richard Branson says is that a setback is just a learning experience. It doesn't define you, it doesn`t tag you as a failure, and it doesn`t predict your future. Even a handicap doesn’t mean you can’t have what you want in life.
So how does this apply to overcoming binge eating?
How a Fixed Mindset Keeps You Addicted to Food, And How a Growth Mindset Can Set You Free:
Now let me ask you: how do you define success and failure when it comes to eating?
What I often hear is that success means eating a little of everything, even some of the “kryptonite” foods with balance, and maintaining a weight and body you’re comfortable in without ever having to worry about food again.
If this seems like an exciting outcome, then read on. Because you’re about to discover the one mindset shift that will bring you success.
I have interviewed a woman who is making great progress in her recovery. And she said that developing these character traits has helped her tremendously:
she is curious about discovering new ways to recover and actively researches them.
she no longer cries or freaks out when she sees that she has gained weight on the scale.
she doesn’t bash herself or conclude she’s weak or lacks discipline after a binge.
As a result, she is much more relaxed, much more appeased, and her faith in her recovery has soared and is 60-70% superior to most women who contact me.
Who wouldn’t want 60% more peace with food on a daily basis? If this is what you have been secretly begging for, hang on. It’s coming to you.
But first, let’s start with…
Why Having a Fixed Mindset Will Kill Your Chances to Recover in the Nest?
Now that I have been hinting about the qualities of a growth mindset, let me cover the pitfalls associated with a fixed mindset.
The concept of growth mindset was devised by Stanford University psychologist, Carol Dweck, who focused her research on achievement and success. She studied how children reacted in a challenging education environment and discovered the concept of mindset.
Here is a Carol Dweck quote:
“In a fixed mindset students believe their basic abilities, their intelligence, their talents, are just fixed traits. They have a certain amount and that’s that, and then their goal becomes to look smart all the time and never look dumb.”
Adapt this to binge eating and weight and you see the goal becomes to look ‘fit’/eat perfectly well all the time and never look ‘fat’ or ‘eat imperfectly.’
If you’ve read my previous story on How to Stop Binging: The Secret Key to Normal Eating, you know the disastrous effects and some of the roots of this kind of thinking.
I’ll let you notice the words “ALL THE TIME” and “NEVER” in Dweck’s quote. For the sake of this presentation, I will call this the ALWAYS or NEVER set. ALWAYS or NEVER thoughts are usually accompanied by the ALL or NOTHING idea.
When you think in those terms, your future or outcome is always fixed; It’s either or. But progress doesn’t matter.
So a fixed mindset thinks in ALWAYS or NEVER and ALL or NOTHING terms.
And with a fixed mindset
You enter the NOTHING zone when you're eating is imperfect. NOTHING is eating with no restraint at all. So a fixed mindset makes it easy to rationalize the smallest slice of cake or cookie as a reason to have a full-blown binge.
And with a fixed mindset you evaluate yourself as weak, flawed, lacking discipline, or undesirable after gaining weight or binging. It doesn’t matter exactly what you call yourself. What is important is that you have an internal switch that rejects your core identity when you binge, gain weight, or eat ‘the wrong food.’
And because every setback is so detrimental to your sense of self-esteem and self-worth, because of the ALWAYS or NEVER concept, you may feel scared to try anything new or may lose motivation entirely after a few failed attempts.
This mindset can lead to apathy, but also putting yourself under so much pressure that you just want to give up, to shut up this food chatter in your head… and binge to get it over with.
And because your sense of core value can be so easily crushed, any criticism is a threat to your well-being.
You may even fear going out, meeting new people, going on dates, or applying for a challenging job because these situations may lead to the crushing feeling that you will NEVER succeed or that you amount to NOTHING. Because a flick of a switch can destroy your self-esteem.
And instead of rallying a dozen of your friends who eat and look like you would love to and let them become your devoted guides and mentors, you’d rather protect yourself from the shame of feeling inferior to them and keep your eating disorder to yourself.
You may have different mindsets for different situations. For example, some people can have a fixed mindset for relationships and a growth mindset for work. Others have a fixed mindset for everything.
You can tell you have a fixed mindset when you try to save face, play it safe, or when you feel terrified of failure, don’t go after what you want, procrastinate and feel bored often in a specific setting. If you feel like this all the time, then this mindset has generalized to all aspects of your life. Now, let’s explore…
How A Growth Mindset Can Help You Overcome Binge Eating and Transform Your Relationship With Food For the Rest of Your Life!
I promised I would tell you how Sir Richard Branson’s pearls of wisdom would help you stop binge eating. Now is the time I to tell you how.
When I read his book, Losing My Virginity, I realized this man had the kind of thinking I needed to put in my head to attain my goals. I also felt like I could never be like him.
But now I understand that what he has is a growth mindset and while not everyone can achieve what he has, at least anyone can develop and enjoy the benefits of a growth mindset — including you and me.
How to Discover What Kind of Mindset You Have When it Comes to Food and Eating?
Now let’s take a look at how the rules he gave during his speeches can be adapted to overcome binge eating:
“Don’t Fear Failure” becomes Don’t Fear Binge Eating, Gaining Weight, and Not Looking Exactly the Way You Want
I’ll turn rule #2: “Don’t Regret Your Past Failures” into Don’t Judge, Reject, or Define Yourself Because You’ve Dieted or Binged because it better fits the context. “Embrace Failure As a Learning Process” that helps you get closer to success becomes Embrace Your Binges and Weight-Gains as a Learning Process that Helps You Get Closer to Success
“Use Challenges to Adapt, Revise, and Re-Adjust Your Approach” turns into Use Cravings, Food obsessions, Weight-Gains, and Binges to Adapt, Revise, and Re-adjust Your Approach.
Carol Dweck, adds that people with a growth-mindset love challenges — the bigger the better — persist in the face of adversity, learn from criticism, see effort as a path to mastery, feel inspired by other people’s success.
Now I want you to assess your mindset.
You may feel like you have a growth mindset because you have tried several diets or hired a nutritionist. But, to me, trying to fix binge eating by controlling the way you eat is just one approach.
So even if you are a thriving, highly-disciplined, strong-willed woman, what matters is how curious and excited you are to try radically different approaches and how you react to setbacks and challenges.
So what have you tried? Distracting yourself, rebounding, meditating, yoga, therapy? Have you looked for an ideal combination?
How did you assess success? Did you give up easily when it was hard?
How do you feel about yourself after a binge?
What do you think about your future after overeating?
The answer to these questions will tell you in which type of mindset you have.
If you fear your mindset is keeping you stuck, secure yourself a free copy of my plan to overcome binge eating permanently by building a growth mindset so that you fast-forward your recovery days to as little as very short three months and find peace with food without strain or struggle.
Do You Have the Right Mindset to Overcome Binge Eating?
Do You Have the Right Mindset to End Binge Eating? Click on “Start Quiz” and answer the questions to find out.
This Mindset Quiz will help you assess whether your mindset is an asset or a block to overcoming binge eating, and find peace with food and your weight.
But now you may be wondering…. OK. I know I have a mindset problem. How do I change it?
How Do You Change Your Mindset to Permanently Overcome Binge Eating?
When I heard about these two mindsets, I asked myself the same question and came up with these answers:
The first step is to observe your mindset as it is today.
The second step is to build a safe space for growth.
The third step is to radically change the way you evaluate success.
The fourth step is to build faith in your ability to recover.
The fifth step is removing internal blocks to recovery.
The sixth step is to change what you expect from yourself.
So, if you accept that there are steps, you are OK with making mistakes, you make realistic expectations and adapt and refine your approach along the way, you will overcome binge eating in time. These are the qualities of a growth mindset.
And the framework of a growth mindset is unshakable self-acceptance. If you accept yourself even when you make a mistake, when people around you criticize you, or when they seem more successful than you, then taking on big challenges will not crush your heart. Binges and cravings will become exciting opportunities for learning and self-discovery.
It’s possible to change any habit gracefully with a growth mindset. It’s thoughts with an ALWAYS/NEVER or ALL/NOTHING dichotomy that keeps us afraid of trying new things and tempts us to play it safe with old approaches like dieting even if we are now convinced that they don’t work.
To overcome binge eating permanently we need to switch from a fixed mindset to a growth mindset in order to build enough patience, peace of mind, and sustain our motivation and perseverance over time. And the framework of a growth mindset is unconditional self-acceptance.