Binge eating is usually something that people do alone; they hide and indulge, only to feel disgusted with themselves moments later. Whether you feel you’re an overeater or an emotional eater – It doesn’t matter what you call it! – this information will help you understand what keeps you eating when you’re not hungry and learn how to end that.
This information is extremely simple yet so often overlooked that most compulsive eaters struggle way too hard to shift their eating habits. I have helped my clients completely eliminate binge eating in as little as a single 90-minute session. There was no struggling or crying involved, just a change of perspective. So read on.
It is very common to hear that the reason for your binge eating sprees is that you don’t eat the right food. This is an easy excuse. You eat too much food. Food is the culprit! I even had a scientist who firmly believes that food is the culprit write a comment on my first blog saying that she was right and she had proof.
My reply to this argument is the following: “The fact that certain foods contain addictive substances doesn’t make them the root cause of food addiction.” (Tweet this) This is a classic marketing ploy trying to make you believe that “it’s not your fault – it’s because you’re the victim of something else,” such as information overload or misinformation about food.
I’m not a savvy marketer so I’m going to give you my straight, honest opinion on binge-eating disorder. It’s not your fault, but it IS your responsibility. As long as you believe you’re a powerless victim of foods, you are at the mercy of your binge-eating monster. (Tweet this)
So the first step to get out of the binge-eating loop is to stop seeing yourself as a powerless victim of external addictive substances. I don’t know you personally, but I can tell you this without a doubt: You are much more powerful than you think (Tweet this). And “with great power comes great responsibility” (–Benjamin Parker, Spider Man) (Tweet this). You have a responsibility towards yourself to find a way to get better and to stop leading the unhealthy, stressful lifestyle that comes with any form of addiction.
I do agree that some foods cause withdrawal symptoms similar to drug-withdrawal symptoms, and that this may worsen an already unhealthy eating regimen. It’s certainly a good idea to avoid consuming sugar-filled foods and sodas, too many cookies, too much pizza … because they tend to cause withdrawal symptoms or mood swings. However, I do not believe these foods are the root cause of binge eating.
Actually, compulsive eating is not easy to conquer because you cannot stop eating entirely. You have to eat something. With alcoholism or recreational drugs, you can let go of the substance entirely. However, you can’t just let go of all foods.
Learning which foods may be addictive to you and trying to let them go is a smart idea. But my question to you is this: How do you let them go in the first place if you’re already addicted to them? If the addiction comes from the food, this may seem an almost impossible task. But if the addiction is caused by the reaction of the body and the brain to the food, then maybe you can teach them to react differently.
Then why can’t I just stop binge eating?
If the root of the addiction is not just the foods, then what is it? The number one reason you can’t stop binge eating lies in the pleasure you associate with a binge and the belief that you won’t be able to cope without it – or, more accurately, the temporary suppression of pain it produces. This pain is not a physical pain. It’s an emotional wound that keeps bleeding stress, anger, sadness, or any other uncomfortable feeling. You have unconsciously learned to alleviate this pain when there is too much to handle at one time; this is when you’re used to resorting to food to generate temporary release.
Binge eaters hide because often one of the main underlying emotions of binge eating is shame or a feeling of unworthiness. They are usually described as “overgivers” or overly nice people. You are unique, and this may be slightly different for you, but there is a fair chance that some form of underlying shame or unworthiness may be driving your need to overeat. What most people feel is some form of anxiety and an obsession with trying to find relief.
In the past, I had a tendency to derive my value from others. Instead of being obsessed with pizza or chocolate chip cookies, I would obsess about someone else. The result was the same; my focus was outside of myself.
How to avoid binge eating?
Your obsession blocks you from focusing on what’s happening inside of you. Instead of giving yourself the love and care you deserve, you give your attention to food (or to whatever is the object of your addiction) and the promise of the relief it brings you.
In my case, my pattern was mostly to give someone a god-like status so that their love would make me feel worthy. I would take whatever crumbs of praise my partner would give and feed on it like a starving animal. Of course, allowing another person to exert this kind of power over you can be very destructive. I have learned new ways to find self-value so that I no longer have to rely on others’ approval.
To end compulsive eating permanently, you must identify what you are trying to get from food that you could give yourself instead . Which feelings are you trying so hard to suppress that you’d rather destroy your self-esteem than face it?
Binge eating is merely a destructive strategy to keep you away from the core of yourself and away from facing your pain. The problem with avoiding your pain is that it will never really go away; you’ll keep on binge eating until you start really looking at your feelings with care. (Tweet this)
Most of my clients have become so good at avoiding pain that they don’t even know they’re feeling it. They just know “it’s binge time!” It takes a little patience and persistence to notice the compulsive process but it’s really worth the attention. I have written a really great article that will give me more information on the process. You can read it at how to stop emotional eating. Read it thoroughly, apply its principles daily and you will change quickly.
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Also, via my workbook (12 Minute Binge Eating Busters) I show you how to release the stress and abort a binge-eating spree in minutes. I train you to bypass this automatic response of emotional pain = stress = “I must relieve stress with binge eating.” You will then be in the best position to start listening to what’s happening to you emotionally. The truth is that you are worthy of love and care, and you are the best person to give yourself the kind of care you need – the kind of care that heals your soul.
I’m also currently working on an online program, and I still accept clients one on one and I would love to help you put binge eating behind you.
So if you’re still wondering why can’t I stop binge eating…
Here is why again. Pushing yourself aside and not treating your true self with the loving care and respect you deserve is the number one reason why you can’t stop eating so much food. It causes an unbearable internal tension that you have learned to temporarily release with certain foods.
The biggest reason that experts are not telling you this is because true healing cannot be sold as a hunger suppressant, another miracle diet, an expensive operation, or any other expensive drug.
Don’t fall for the common traps! Take the first step and learn how you can support yourself in your transformation to the new, healthy, happy eater you so much want to become. Learn how to release the stress and really listen to yourself instead of taking another bite. You’ll be amazed with the results.
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